Posted: 17-Jan-2014 Category: Psychology
David Burns believes that we are always playing games. Not just board games or organized sports, but games with each other. According to Burns, we are all carefully scripting our interpersonal interactions, trying to gain the maximum leverage possible.
This is a cynical view on humanity, but there is some truth to it.
While it might be easy to be discouraged by such a view, it can actually be empowering in the right context. If we understand that everything is a game, then we can stop manipulative or destructive patterns of behaviour.
In essence, once we recognize the confines of the games we create, we can rise above them.
By rising above the games, we can achieve true intimacy, which will improve our relationships at home or work. In this way, we can change the game so everybody wins.