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Most Important Lesson I Learned From My Dad

Posted: 12-Jan-2014    Category: Business, Inspiration, Psychology

I was one of those kids that never stopped playing when I was growing up. 

It didn't matter what sport it was or what the stakes were or even if I was hurt: I always kept playing. Even with bumps and bruises, a black eye or a bloody lip: I never quit.

Afterward, people were always surprised to see that I was in fact hurt. They just assumed that it couldn't have been that bad if I stayed in the game and played so hard.

It wasn't that I didn't get hurt or that it wasn't sometimes hard to go on.

The simple fact was that I didn't know how to quit.

I came by this persistence through example from my parents. After all, it was my father who taught me the value of following through even when things get tough. Every day, he chose to get on a bus to go to work, traveling two hours each way with a three hour transfer. He even kept working after he hurt his shoulder, even when it hurt so bad he couldn't move it. He chose to keep working seven days a week, rain or shine, just to support his family.

In short, he kept "playing." He did whatever he had to do to keep his job and keep food on the table. He never quit.

Sometimes I think we need to remember that kind of persistence. Why do people quit so easily? Why have we become so spoiled? Whether it's a game or a job or a relationship, we need to keep at it. We need to stay committed and persevere. It's not always easy, but it's not always supposed to be easy.

After all, we'll never know what we can achieve unless we give everything we have and keep going until the very end.

Lessons to teach our kids (and everyone else)
  1. Take your sense of entitlement and shove it.
  2. When you feel like quitting, just know that you have more within you and the pain is just temporary. But the pain of quitting will not only haunt you forever, but will become part of your thought process.
  3. Play play play. Everything you do, do it with the mindset of playing. Having fun is a mindset not a situation.

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