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Are You Neurotic?

Posted: 27-Jan-2014    Category: Psychology

Looks like people had a great interest towards the last personality article. Here is a follow up based on our Neuroticism behaviour.

Some people are outgoing. Other people are happiest within their own headspace. 

This fundamental difference in personality has vast implications. According to Hans Eysenck, these personality traits are determined most by our genetic makeup. In his theory, our personality is determined in the womb. While environmental factors will affect personality, the changes are small or moderate, usually only serving as a meagre cover to already inherent traits.

In this biological makeup, there are two super traits to consider: introversion/extroversion and neuroticism.

Most people know what introversion and extroversion are. In fact, most people can self-identify easily with one label or the other. 

Introverts, in general, are more vulnerable to intense inner feelings. Due to this internal overload, they often avoid taxing social interactions and find solace in their own minds.

Extroverts, on the other hand, tend to be less affected by emotions. This is why they seek outside stimulation to provide such emotion. They need external interaction in order to feel alive.

According to Eysenck, introversion and extroversion is determined by the varying levels of excitability in the brain. Ultimately, that facet of our personality is determined by the way our brain processes emotional stimulation.

Neuroticism, as the other super trait, is about how we cope with that excitement. When people are more neurotic, they are more likely to be upset or anxious. Neuroticism makes people over-respond to stimuli, leading to less emotional stability. Neuroticism can affect both introverts and extroverts. 

For introverts, neuroticism leads to a preponderance of phobias. Extroverts, however, express neuroticism with denial and repression.

These delineations can help us handle our own personalities and the personalities of others.
  1. Personality is genetic. Much of who we are is determined by our DNA.
  2. Personality is how we deal with emotions. Super traits such as neuroticism stem from our mind’s ability to process emotions.

We cannot change our genetic makeup. We can, however, understand it. With that understanding, we have the power to control our choices and better cope with our genetic dispositions, changing our lives for the better.

In layman's terms, two outcomes two kinds of people:

"Oh! it's not my fault, this is who I am, and really, HE makes me act like this."

  • Victimized thought process
  • No accountability or responsibility towards their own action

OR

"I can't believe I responded as such - I need to become more aware of my emotions, and what causes them so I can be more accountable of them."

  • Person knows they are human and will react at times
  • Will take the opportunity to learn and grow from it
  • Most importantly, will take responsibility towards their reaction

Who you want to be is a choice only you have and are accountable for.


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